体高和体重记录

自从耕耕回来吉隆坡以后，我都会不定时为他量体高。两岁半时，他92公分，到了三岁，他93公分。三岁五个月时，他97公分，而两个月前，就是他三岁八个月时，他已经长到99公分了。至于体重呢，却从两岁半的12公斤到现在三岁十个月的15公斤。基本上，他算中等体型，稍微瘦了一点，但希望他可以长多些肉。

自己缝制的bow tie，准备在伊雯结婚时让他戴上

几个星期前去公园时拍的照片，也是我很喜欢的照片

Ben's weekend activity

It is almost fixed that our Saturday mornings are spent together with Ben, unless there are some other plans which are more important and urgent. We usually bring him to Titiwangsa lake which also has a big playground, jogging tracks, and loads of space for other activities. Recently, we bought him (actually Dexter paid for it) a bicycle. So we bring it along every Saturday because there are a lot of tracks for him to cycle around. He just loves it. Also we will bring his badminton rackets.

Ben's grandpa bought him this pair of sports shoes.

Ben playing badminton with his dad.

 

Ben is pretending to fill fuel to his bicycle

Kids Petrol Station

Ben 的幼稚园

上星期二，我们带耕耕去CECE参观，看看他们的学习环境，同时去了解他们的教学课程。Ms Pauline Choo 是那位接待我们的园长，为人和蔼可亲。她向我们解释所有的问题，让我们了解四岁班的小孩将会学些什么东西。原本听说CECE比较注重玩耍多于学术，但是经过了解过后，我觉得我还相当满意他们的课程，因为除了玩乐之外，他们其实也开始教导三个语文，还有数学，程度也还不错。我只是担心老师们的发音，因为听见他们说的英文并不是那么标准，也怕他们的华语掺了许多语病和方言。
后来，园长带我们去参观课室。当我们正准备离开课室时，耕耕突然放开我的手，向我摇手说bye bye。哈哈，这小瓜以为他今天就上课了。我心里其实也蛮开心，因为这意味着他多少已经预备好进入学校就读，而且不需要我陪伴。我向他解释说，等他四岁了，他就可以上学了。他问我，什么时候他四岁，我说等你happy birthday时就四岁了。我们要先过圣诞节，然后就到你的生日了。
我想他心里一定是迫不及待这一天的到来，因为当晚，他正要睡时，他在床上突然叫我说，‘mummy，我好想快快happy birthday哦，我要四岁’。哈哈，读书的日子长得很，别这么紧张，孩子 :)

儿童奉献礼

这是一个很特别的日子 （7 July 2012），也是神所祝福的日子，因为就在这天，我们在将孩子，承远，献上，愿意为这孩子祷告，以身作则，并以圣经的教导来孩子。愿神祝福他，指引他前面的道路，使他凡事行在神的道路上。愿他凡事寻求神，从小明白真理，在世上作盐作光，成为神所喜悦的人。

looking for pre-school for Ben

Today, Ben and I visited two pre-school centres in the area. The first centre is Learning Fresh owned by a young and soft-spoken mother, Ms Liew. Before leaving home, I made a phone call to make sure it was ok to visit the centre at that time. What impressed me was that, she not only writes good English but speaks good English too. This is the first criteria I am looking for if I were to put Ben in an English speaking environment. There was no Asian accent, not even American accent which I do not like, but I couldn't tell what accent that was. I don't think it is British accent either.
Anyway, we had a short chat about how the kids are being taught in the centre, the development stages, etc. Another thing which I think is good is that, there is only 1 toddler in the class of 3 years old at the moment. It means if Ben joins the class, there will be more conversation between him and the teacher. I agree that kids learn faster among the same age, but Ben also enjoys talking to older children and adults. And if that happens a lot, I believe he would gain a stronger and better language foundation. Some more, eventhough English is not completely new to him, but in term of speaking, it is something he has to learn from the very beginning.
They also emphasize a lot in reading which is also something I like about them, and for the 3 year-olds, they focus more on learning-through-playing and English speaking. Reading and writing come in only at the age of 4-5, which I think is a bit late. Well, not too late though as it depends on the kids' progress actually. They do not believe in flash cards learning which I personally like it a lot after seeing the result from Ben. When I started flash cards with Ben, he was 2+ years old. I am not a hardworking mother, so I taught him only once a day, the A-aeroplane, B-ball flash cards. After 1 months, he could memorize 90% of it. That's how he learnt the alphabets. Then seeing his interest in transport, I bought another set of cards on transport, taught him for 2 weeks+, and he could tell me each of the card I showed him. He could even memorise the order of the 40 cards! So I added some more for him, animals, birds, numbers, etc. And now I have taught him some English and Chinese words (altogether about 40 words), and out of my surprise, he likes them very much. He even likes to find the words he already knows from books, newspapers and magazines! Yeah, there are skills to use flash cards, but to me, it really works, and it stimulates the passion of a kid to learn more.
Then come the rate. I would say it is outside of my expectation.
The second centre was Tumble Tots. Ben's eyes were wide opened when he saw those physical play equipment in the centre and he couldn't wait to have a try. Those equipment were so colourful and attractive that Ben went straight to a trampoline and jumped!
Yeah, I would say it did not convince me at the very first place besides the physical play equipment. My first criteria is not met unfortunately. The explanation by the instructor was too brief and not very informative compared to the way Ms Liew has presented. I did not stay long and left for home.
The 3rd pre-school in my list is CECE by Tunku Abdul Rahman College. Many friends of mine sent their children to CECE and have good comments. Anyway, more comments will come only till I visited their centre.

little kids' words

Recently I noticed that when Ben's coming down the staircases, he purposely moved slowly. And when he says a prayer he pauses for a few times. When asked why, he explained, 'it's loading'. Although he's mistakenly taken the wrong meaning of 'loading', I find it funny to use that word in such way.

学大人说话

这个阶段是小孩学习大人说话的时候。大人有时候不小心说了什么，小孩就全单照收。平时他不听话的时候，我会说他，‘你真是不听话哦’。今天他竟然用同样的话对我说我不听话，因为没有给他桌布。有时他还会说我麻烦，也是学我的。不然就说我没帮他做事情，因为有时候需要他帮忙的时候他不帮，我就说他没帮我做工。
小孩啊小孩！什么你都学啊？

Lunch at CFC

今天，应高昇传道的邀请，我和耕耕到教会和传道们（就是永彬传道和茹彬传道）还有慧敏姐妹一起吃午餐。主要是让我分享我当全职妈妈后的需要，也为绣盛的需要来祷告，并邀请我参与青草地祷告小组。
不是没有考虑过要参与，只是心里面就是有些拦住。不过我想，正如高昇传道所说，我可以透过这个小组操练祷告，并且经历祷告的能力。我知道对于这点，我是愿意的。
刚才吃饭的时候，耕耕又发挥了他爱讲的一面。跟高昇传道也好，跟永彬传道也好，他总是一直在讲个不停。他们看见他这么会说话，也跟他‘谈’起来。什么内容都有，包括他的香港游啦，跟Zara吵架啦，娉惠来我们家喝罗汉果水啦，还爆出Anthony的Shy Shy Fish名字。他很乖，坐在儿童椅子上不吵闹，不乱走，要上厕所也会讲。有时我想，他可能还是比较喜欢和成人沟通。

Holiday to Hong Kong

我们一家人于5-12 April到香港旅行。这是耕耕第一次跟我们到这么远旅行，所以感觉很不一样。以往都是我和绣盛一起，现在耕耕在我们身边，感觉上这就是一家人的旅行。
耕耕一到那里就吵着耳朵痛，因为飞机上的气压使他的耳朵压力转变。在的士里他就开始吵着，结果我给了半粒糖。原本要他不要咬，含在口里慢慢让它融化，他却以为我要他不要咬就吞下，结果糖塞住食道就痛。幸好他成功把它呕了出来。
后来他第二天开始就泻，一直泻到第四天。我却在第五天生病，发烧，头痛，喉咙痛，咳嗖。结果我们去不成澳门，只好留在香港逛街。其实逛街的时间也不够，因为香港太多地方逛了。
很感恩，因为小姑丈提供我们住宿，而且交通非常方便，景色和环境都很好。我们可以如此自在，也因为有小姑丈的招待。

吃饭慢

我常常因为耕耕吃饭太慢而气死。他时常没胃口吃饭，稍微大口一点就要呕。要他自己吃饭，他可以慢条斯理，慢慢在盘中寻宝，汤匙翻来翻去也不舀饭。通常一顿饭要费至少一个小时才能吃完。
这两天，我让他选择。一，现在就把饭吃完；二，饭收起来，下一餐的奶没得喝。他这两次都选了后者。看着他又瘦又小，现在又不吃饭，我真不知道要怎么办。

Ben to Kids worship without mummy and dad

Today is the first time Ben attended the church kids worship without mummy and daddy's accompany. Huh, finally he can do this after almost half a year and this is the day we have been waiting for. Both mummy and daddy are very happy and proud of our little boy.
Yes, of course before the church, I explained several times to him that he now has turned 3 years old and can be independent without us. Mummy needs to go upstairs and listen to 'adult story' and he has to stay downstairs to listen to 'children's story'. He then agreed to let me go upstairs and he himself stayed downstairs. When we reached the second floor, he took off his sandals and went in himself. I knew he was nervous and scared because when he was pulled away to avoid someone coming with chairs, he was shocked and his face looked scared. I went in and brought him into his classroom, showed him where his coins were put in his bag. Then I brought him to his teacher and he agreed to let me leave.
Well, the 1.5 hours upstairs was not relaxing either because I kept thinking if he would look for me. Anyway, I know once he agreed to let me leave, he would try his best to adapt it. When we finished our service upstairs, I went directly to his classroom. He saw me through the glass window and waved to me happily while eating his biscuit on his chair. The teacher told me that he behaved well, didn't look for me and could concentrate for quite long. He also participated in singing session. He then came out, held my hands happily, which made me feel proud of him :D
At home, he told me that he can attend church without me and daddy in future. Hehe... mummy and daddy can now attend our service together again!

Hot Air Balloon Festive

This morning, we brought Ben to the 4th Hot Air Balloon Festive in Putrajaya. It was also the first time I attended the festive but it was quite disappointing that there were only about 10 hot air balloon to see. Some more, those were the very common designs, and those special ones we saw in newspaper were not set up yet.

The orange parachute fell into the lake.

Last two weeks, Ben was colouring his Winnie The Pooh colouring book. When I saw the camp fire, I ask him to colour it with red. He asked me,' I think fire is blue?'. I hold a second to figure out why he asked that. Then I realised every time he sees me cooking, the fire that came out of the gas stove is BLUE! Haha, you are right, Ben!

回来啦!

有太多的事情来不及记录，所以迟至今天才动手写。
耕耕回美里过新年，依旧记得所有的事物，购物广场，等。当晚回到家，他好像重新翻开四个月的记忆库，在客厅里看东看西，看见他的小沙发，熟悉的环境，然后走进房间看见他睡了两年半的床。当晚，我们本来想让他跟回我睡，怎知他依然记得那是阿嬷的位子，不肯让我睡。见到宝贝孙回来，阿嬷和公公开心极了。
在美里的两个礼拜，耕耕粘回阿嬷，让我终于可以透透气，腰酸背痛也在这个时候慢慢痊愈。他在美里吃得比较多，活动也多，所以在短短的两个星期，从93公分长高至95公分。伤风咳嗽也痊愈了。我想，他在美里真的很开心。
他在美里期间，出现了一些坏毛病。每当长辈想抱他，疼他的时候，他就会拒绝，然后乱打人。因为这样，让有心人有了机会批评。妈妈也问我他为什么会这样，我因此感到压力，好像没有把他教好。
离开美里的时候，他哭着找阿嬷。直到上了飞机，我问他，我们现在飞去哪里，他答说，KL。我继续说：‘我们以后再飞回来美里找阿嬷，然后再飞回去KL，再飞来美里。Pilot看见了会笑，咦，你怎么飞来飞去？’他听了觉得很好笑，就重复我的话，自己咯咯笑，就没吵着找阿嬷了。
这次回来吉隆坡，他很快就适应了。看见他的家，他的‘A Wong’，他的床，他说他回来KL了。礼拜天去教会有小朋友一起玩，他很喜欢。我想，他是真的适应了。感谢神，我没有因为旁人的阻扰而延迟把耕耕带回来。
当了全职妈妈快半年了，我自己也适应了。从起初的手忙脚乱，到今天可以重新拥有自己的时间，我觉得很棒。我记得七年前，那时还在觅职，我向神祷告，求他给我一份安定的工作，好让我可以像读书时，有一个规律的灵修时间亲近他。结果在过去的六年，我没有好好的灵修过，常常因为疲倦而放弃。当然我没忘记曾经想过要好好的灵修，但是总是有心而力不从。现在，我逐渐有了下午的时间，我读圣经，祷告，心里充满神赐的喜乐。但是偶尔我还会懒惰，想读书，想看报纸，想上网，想做一些家务。我已经读了以弗所书至约翰三书，正要进入犹大书。这些都是我信了主这么多年都没读完的书卷。我觉得很充实，对神，对耶稣有了更深的认识。我知道圣灵也在我心里做工，使我胜过试探。
曾经因为耕耕伤风咳嗽久久不愈，我压力非常大。大到我不想让耕耕去教会与其他小孩接触，也不想让他参与小组，因为总是觉得他们把病毒传来传去，病很难好起来。后来有一天，突然心里就是一直责备自己：‘你怎么这么傻？你差点阻碍你的孩子和你自己来到神面前认识他’。整个下午我睡不着，就是一直责备自己：‘你真傻，你真傻’。后来我的心结松了，我承认自己的软弱，也深信主会医治并保守耕耕，给他健康的身体，让他可以跟小朋友一起认识神。我想，要不是圣灵感动，提醒我，我怎么可能会有这种经历？
现在，我们晚上不开冷气睡觉，虽然有时候热得流汗，但是为了耕耕的健康，我们还是坚持。感谢神，最近晚上都不太热，而且我们也比较能够适应了。这个si fad zai :D

New Year 2012

新的一年来了，再多六天就农历新年了。今年我们会先回马六甲然后才回美里。今年有点特别，因为这是耕耕第一次在马六甲过年，我想让他看看马六甲鸡场街的新年气氛。或许他会喜欢，因为今年，在鸡场街挂上了一条三百多尺的龙。而美里则胜在新年气氛浓厚，舞狮，装饰和拜年的传统都保留的很好，而且美里人点放烟花炮竹比较没受太大的限制。
耕耕再过三天就三岁了。我们没有为他大事庆祝，因为今年是他第一年在这里和我们在一起过生日，我想让我们一家为他庆祝最恰当。等他大一点是再为他办生日会。